SJPL Recommends: Resources for Parents in talking about Race and Racism | San José Public Library

How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk

by Faber, Adele

Book - 2012

Ideally, conscious conversations between parent and child begin during the child's youngest years, and progress in depth as family communication continues...Show more Ideally, conscious conversations between parent and child begin during the child's youngest years, and progress in depth as family communication continues. This practical handbook stresses the importance of building a genuine, lasting, mutually respectful relationship with your children. "Cope with your child's negative feelings, such as frustration, anger, and disappointment -- Express your strong feelings without being hurtful -- Engage your child's willing cooperation -- Set firm limits and maintain goodwill -- Use alternatives to punishment that promote self-discipline -- Understand the difference between helpful and unhelpful praise -- Resolve family conflicts peacefully." Show less

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How to Talk So Teens Will Listen-- & Listen So Teens Will Talk

by Faber, Adele

Book - 2005

Perhaps half of the battle for parents wanting to talk with their adolescent children about racism is being able to truly listen to your child and to ensure that your child listens to you as well. Perhaps half of the battle for parents wanting to talk with their adolescent children about racism is being able to truly listen to your child and to ensure that your child listens to you as well. Show less

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Stamped (for Kids)

Racism, Antiracism, and You

by Cherry-Paul, Sonja

Book - 2021

A chapter book adaptation of Ibram X. Kendi's and Jason Reynolds' bestseller, Stamped: Racism, Antiracism, and You: A Remix of the National Book Award-winning "Stamped from the Beginning." A chapter book adaptation of Ibram X. Kendi's and Jason Reynolds' bestseller, Stamped: Racism, Antiracism, and You: A Remix of the National Book Award-winning "Stamped from the Beginning." Show less

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Let's Talk About Race

by Lester, Julius

Book - 2005

Share this book with preschoolers and primary school students before progressing to deeper conversations about race and racism. Share this book with preschoolers and primary school students before progressing to deeper conversations about race and racism. Show less

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How to Teach Kids About Racism

A Guide on How to Educate your Child About Diversity & Being Antiracist

by Jackson, Rebecca J.

Book - 2020

Created to be suited for preschoolers through high-school aged children, th0s book provides instructions and analogies that you can use to initiate constructive dialogue. Created to be suited for preschoolers through high-school aged children, th0s book provides instructions and analogies that you can use to initiate constructive dialogue. Show less

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This Book Is Anti-racist

by Jewell, Tiffany

Book - 2020

Parents who want to talk with preteens and teens about racism could find sharing this book to be a useful focus to begin their conversation. "Written...Show more Parents who want to talk with preteens and teens about racism could find sharing this book to be a useful focus to begin their conversation. "Written for the young person who doesn't know how to speak up to the racist adults in their life. For the 14 year old who sees injustice at school and isn't able to understand the role racism plays in separating them from their friends. ... It's for all of the Black and Brown children who have been harmed (physically and emotionally) because no one stood up for them or they couldn't stand up for themselves. ... It is written so children and young adults will feel empowered to stand up to the adults who continue to close doors in their faces. This book will give them the language and ability to understand racism and a drive to undo it. " Show less

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https://nmaahc.si.edu/learn/talking-about-race

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Smithsonian National Museum of African American History & Culture. Since the museum's opening in 2003, the #1 question people ask is how to talk abou...Show more Smithsonian National Museum of African American History & Culture. Since the museum's opening in 2003, the #1 question people ask is how to talk about race. “Let’s Talk! Teaching Race in the Classroom,” has evolved into a collection of resources for others beyond professional educators. Parents and caregivers specifically are addressed in their section, I Am a Parent or Caregiver https://nmaahc.si.edu/learn/talking-about-race/audiences/parent-caregiver Show less

Race Talk and the Conspiracy of Silence

Understanding and Facilitating Difficult Dialogues on Race

by Sue, Derald Wing

Book - 2015

In order to "learn to talk about race openly, honestly, and productively," the author reveals hidden "ground rules" that inhibit hones...Show more In order to "learn to talk about race openly, honestly, and productively," the author reveals hidden "ground rules" that inhibit honest and productive dialogue about racism. "Through emotional and visceral examples, this book ... provides guidelines, techniques, and advice for navigating" honest conversations. Show less

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SJPL recommends: Beyond the Golden Rule: A Parent's Guide to Preventing and Responding to Prejudice

https://www.learningforjustice.org/sites/default/files/general/beyond_golden_rule.pdf

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Formerly known as Tolerance.org, the Southern Poverty Law Center’s Learning for Justice program moves beyond original goals of trying to reduce prejudice ...Show more Formerly known as Tolerance.org, the Southern Poverty Law Center’s Learning for Justice program moves beyond original goals of trying to reduce prejudice and hate and to increase tolerance. They seek to be “a catalyst for racial justice in the South and beyond, working in partnership with communities to dismantle white supremacy, strengthen intersectional movements and advance the human rights of all people.” The 2021 name change reflects “the collaborative work of learning and growing together to reach our goal of justice for all.” Show less

SJPL recommends: Talking to Young Children About Race and Racism | PBS KIDS for Parents

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Here are tips, books, and resources to help you have meaningful conversations with young children about race, racism, and anti-racist behavior. Here are tips, books, and resources to help you have meaningful conversations with young children about race, racism, and anti-racist behavior. Show less

SJPL recommends: How to Talk to Your Children about Protests and Racism - CNN. By Sandee LaMotte, CNN, updated June 2, 2020.

https://www.cnn.com/2020/06/01/health/protests-racism-talk-to-children-wellness/index.html

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CNN urges parents of all races to initiate discussions with their children about race and racism in American society. Help your child navigate the trauma...Show more CNN urges parents of all races to initiate discussions with their children about race and racism in American society. Help your child navigate the trauma of images and reports of news events in which they hear about both police actions and both peaceful and violent public protest reactions. Dr. Nia Heard-Garris, chair of the minority health, equity and inclusion committee, American Academy of Pediatrics, emphasizes, “The recent deaths of Breonna Taylor, an EMT who was killed in March after officers forced their way inside her home; Ahmaud Arbery, the 25-year-old unarmed black man shot while taking a jog in rural Georgia in February; and now George Floyd’s death, has many black parents afraid that “the talk” may not be enough. The problem here is systemic racism and disregard for black lives." Show less

So You Want to Talk About Race

by Oluo, Ijeoma

Book - 2019

This bestseller "offers a hard-hitting but user-friendly examination of race in America" that provides essential historical and sociological con...Show more This bestseller "offers a hard-hitting but user-friendly examination of race in America" that provides essential historical and sociological context of systemic racism in American society, addressing typical questions of both whites and people of color. Show less

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SJPL Recommends: Anti-Defamation League. Table Talk: Family Conversations about Current Events.

https://www.adl.org/education/resources/tools-and-strategies/table-talk

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The Anti-Defamation League, "Fighting hate for good," is an anti-hate organization founded in 1913 in response to an escalating climate of anti...Show more The Anti-Defamation League, "Fighting hate for good," is an anti-hate organization founded in 1913 in response to an escalating climate of antisemitism and bigotry. A global leader in exposing extremism, delivering anti-bias education and fighting hate online, ADL’s ultimate goal is a world in which no group or individual suffers from bias, discrimination or hate." Suggests supportive frameworks for holding family conversations about issues in the news, such as Black Lives Matter, racism, bias, hate crimes based on race, religion, sexual identity, gender, and racial violence. Show less

Crucial Conversations

Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High

Book - 2012

Examining your own ability as a parent to talk comfortably about difficult subjects with other people is a valuable prerequisite to examine your own attit...Show more Examining your own ability as a parent to talk comfortably about difficult subjects with other people is a valuable prerequisite to examine your own attitudes before opening conversation with your child about the emotionally charged subject of racism in American society. Show less

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SJPL recommends: Talking to your kids about racism | UNICEF Parenting

https://www.unicef.org/parenting/talking-to-your-kids-about-racism

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“The way children understand the world evolves as they grow, but it’s never too late to talk to them about equality and racism. Here are some age-appropri...Show more “The way children understand the world evolves as they grow, but it’s never too late to talk to them about equality and racism. Here are some age-appropriate ways to start that conversation and explain that racism is always wrong. … Take every opportunity to challenge racism, demonstrate kindness and stand up for every person's right to be treated with dignity and respect.” Keep the conversation going as they mature. Show less

SJPL Recommends: How to Talk with Kids About Racism and Racial Violence.| Common Sense Media

https://www.commonsensemedia.org/blog/how-to-talk-with-kids-about-racism-and-racial-violence

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Blog by Allison Briscoe Smith, June 2020. It starts with checking in on yourself, and then listening deeply. Advice from Common Sense Media editors. See...Show more Blog by Allison Briscoe Smith, June 2020. It starts with checking in on yourself, and then listening deeply. Advice from Common Sense Media editors. See also Carolyn Knorr's Blog, on talking with children about any difficult topics https://www.commonsensemedia.org/blog/how-to-talk-to-kids-about-difficult-subjects Show less

SJPL Recommends: How White Parents Can Use Media to Raise Anti-Racist Kids | Common Sense Media

https://www.commonsensemedia.org/blog/how-white-parents-can-use-media-to-raise-anti-racist-kids

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Movies, TV, and books can be powerful teaching tools when it comes to helping kids understand race, racism, and a history of racial oppression. Advice from Common Sense Media editors. Movies, TV, and books can be powerful teaching tools when it comes to helping kids understand race, racism, and a history of racial oppression. Advice from Common Sense Media editors. Show less

How to Have That Difficult Conversation You've Been Avoiding

With your Spouse, Adult Child, Family, Boss, Coworker, Friend, Parent or Someone You're Dating

by Cloud, Henry

Book - 2006

Encourages parents (and others) to give up their hesitation in brining up challenging topics. Written from a religious/psychological perspective. Emphasizes that "healthy confrontation can improve relationships." Encourages parents (and others) to give up their hesitation in brining up challenging topics. Written from a religious/psychological perspective. Emphasizes that "healthy confrontation can improve relationships." Show less

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Real American

A Memoir

by Lythcott-Haims, Julie

Book - 2017

The author' explains that while her first book, How to raise an adult, takes on the harm of helicopter parenting. [her] second book, Real American, examines the thousand small cuts racism imposes on African-Americans. The author' explains that while her first book, How to raise an adult, takes on the harm of helicopter parenting. [her] second book, Real American, examines the thousand small cuts racism imposes on African-Americans. Show less

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